By Aurora McCausland
Have you ever found yourself hesitant to do something, whether it be a new business venture or asking your cute coworker on a date? And becoming so hesitant and nervous, that you decide to throw out the entire idea and never follow through? While fear is a healthy emotion and it’s there for a reason, it definitely tends to get an unhealthy grip on you and make you so hesitant and afraid that you don’t take leaps of faith or do things that you probably should do anyway. For some people, this fear of failure is so bad, that it paralyzes them.
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Fear in the workplace
We all know someone who has been unhappy in the same job for 5+ years, and has no intention of changing career paths. Despite being miserably unhappy, they don’t want to change their situation. They’re afraid they won’t be able to find a job that pays as well, or they’re afraid that their work situation could potentially be worse somewhere else, or they’re afraid that their coworkers and supervisors will get mad at them if they leave to pursue other career choices. So, they stay in the same unfortunate situation for years and years. You spend the majority of your waking hours each year, at work. If you’re going to be spending the majority of your life inside a cubicle, or in an office building, make sure that it’s something you love! Don’t let the fear of change keep you from getting into a better situation. The first step to getting over this fear, is to send in just one job application. Then another. Send in a few, until you get an interview. Go slow, go at your own pace, but send out applications and accept interviews as you feel comfortable. Remember that going to an interview doesn’t guarantee anything and doesn’t mean you’re quitting your job, and it should be a little bit less scary. Eventually, you’ll find a job that’s a better fit, and hopefully, you’ll feel ready to accept it.
Fear of your personal demons
Everyone has bad habits and addictions that they are not fond of. For those who are seeking sobriety, the idea that they will potentially relapse, or they’ll be stuck in an uncomfortable remission for the rest of their life, is a scary enough thought they relapse and struggle to rehabilitate themselves. It seems hopeless, and like the battle is already lost. Remember, recovery is a long term battle. Relapses don’t mean that you’ve lost. It just means that there are more ways for self improvement. Having someone you trust, like a therapist or counselor, to talk you through these issues is the best way to help you overcome your fear of failure and relapse.
Fear of financial ruin
Most fear, comes from not knowing enough about something. Money is something that can cause crippling fear for many people. You always seem to need more of it, and never seem to have quite enough to do all of the things that you want and need to do. Paying bills becomes stressful, buying groceries is stressful, and you turn down invitations from friends to go out because the idea of spending money is scary and stressful. When you live in constant fear of money, or the loss of money, you’re not able to live your life happily. Just because you decide to go to happy hour with your coworkers once a month, or even once a week, doesn’t mean you’ll be filing for bankruptcy by the end of the year. There is moderation in all things. What matters when it comes to money, is that you’re fully aware of your financial situation. Don’t let yourself be unsure of your finances. Download a mobile banking app so you always have access to your funds and know exactly how much money you have. If you find yourself in debt, talk to a financial advisor and find out what the best steps to get out of debt and move forward are. Money doesn’t have to be an intimidating and scary substance in your life; it enables you to have fun and enjoy your life, so don’t let it hold you back.